The more consultations and leads I chat with online the more I am learning about motivation and why it’s far less important than we think it is. I hear “I’m not motivated” or “I need to find some motivation” behind closed doors, on the gym floor, and through chat daily.
Is motivation really what’s needed? I think far too many people are waiting to feel motivated to take action. The feeling comes and goes.
I witness it weekly and sometimes daily. I had 2 chats today with 2 new leads that decided they were going to wait or that they decided it wasn’t the right time, just after inquiring. This happens days after as well.We could argue they are scared, insecure, or that they got cold feet and I wouldn’t disagree.
Fact is, something we posted resonated with them and prompted them to take action. Minutes, hours, or a day later they’ve changed their mind. Music, videos, stories, quotes, and other things can cause us to get hyped up momentarily. That’s not a bad thing. If that springs us into action, that’s awesome.
Just don’t depend on that feeling to keep you going. It might come back from time to time, but most days, you won’t find your friend motivation to help kick you into gear.
All it takes to throw your motivation off track is someone else’s social media post, work, family, someone’s comments, or even thinking something you tried and failed at in the past.
People that rely on motivation either don’t start things or they do start them & they quit when things get difficult.
People that recognize that motivation is fickle enjoy it when it comes and go against their feelings when they aren’t motivated.
They know motivation is feelings-based and not to be trusted. They’ve developed discipline that allows them to do things they don’t want to do in order to reap the rewards.
Are you relying on motivation too much? We all have.
The way out of relying on motivation is this:
Do the things you don’t want to do and others won’t.
Make gratitude lists or a win’s list. (Bright spot Friday)Make decisions based on facts.
Do what other seemingly successful/”motivated” people do, as long as it conforms to your lifestyle. (Don’t get up at 4am if it’s going to drag you down)
Don’t quit anything for a season. If you committed to it and it’s reasonable to persevere, do so.
Write down goals, make a plan, test, restest often.
Motivation or Drive comes after success.
Not necessarily the end goal, but small wins. As small as making it to class as planned. It’s a snowball effect. Stacking small wins creates more motivation to push forward.
Motivation isn’t the enemy by any means, it’s just depended upon far too often and we’re waiting on something that may never come.